Secrets...
The word has a dark tone to it…
Everyone has them… most of them revealed to a select few and maybe a few to no one at all…
But should we have them…? To what extent, from whom, just ours or those of others as well…? What if the secret shouldn’t be a secret at al…?
Some say… don’t keep secrets from those closest to you… is it always feasible…? What might be unimportant for one, might turn out to be of significance for the other… then ?
Is the act of not making a reference to something on your own a secret or the act of deliberately hiding something…?
They always bring along the constant anxiety of spilling out of the bag, and the fear of it happening at the most unexpected time, place & fashion.
Why do we keep secrets in the first place…? We don’t trust people, we don’t want to be blamed, get embarrassed or feel ashamed of having done something…?
Why then do things that need to be kept a secret…? Most of the times, if something needs to be kept as a secret, then its not the right thing to do…
Not trying to advocate the act of telling anyone and everyone know anything and everything… but won’t life be a lot simpler and happier if there were no secrets…? Won’t the world be much better, safer & peaceful…?
posted by same difference @ 10:15 PM
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hmmm...
secrets...
secret is ur life's undiscussed/unexpressed moments which does come out in the open ..
The more you wud have tried to keep it silent ..the more it sways out like a cobra hissing at you (esp its somethng embarrassing ..)
The more u dig it into the ground..its sure to b found out by some archaelogist out there ...!!
All in all...
Secret cannot be kept for long...Subtle hints abt its existence are always being given.
What r u sayin...???
NO secrets...
chheee ...how boring....!!!
but u can definitely choose & filter out the part of ur life u open to ppl and that depends on the trust level in the relationship.
A sensitve topic indeed.
Well, as far as my reading of "life", and more importantly, of "myself" goes, secrets broadly fall in 2 categories :
1. Those regarding the secret(s) of others that u've been a party to, and have been sworn not to divulge.
2. This is where it gets interesting :: secrets that hold ur most intimate, deep, dark(?), and completely personal thoughts. . .
The latter arise from the subconcsious, and are therefore, beyond a measure of control. . to some extent that is.
People :: hmm. . how many times u have seen them changing i don't know, but i sure have witnessed them making an abrupt about-turn reg. their outlook, ideology, feelings and attachment level with me, with time.
Letting someone know a secret of type1 : would be a betrayl of trust that the original person had placed in u.
regarding the latter, it would be unwise to let them out opely. As u know, every person's unique with his/her own set of unique parallel Subconsciuos minds . . believe me, the subconscious does exhibit multiple personalities, and that's why i chose to put it in plural. . Anyways, coming to the point -
Letting them a secret would be like...mmm...can't find a perfecrt analogy here, but in one word : it's Dangerous, rather a gamble.
A person's interpretations of everything around him is largely influenced by his surroundings and how his/her psyche reacts to stimulii of various kinds. . But, it's YOUR secrets that are being talked about :: Secrets that might have developed and were honed over a period of time by your ownself.
that's why, untill and unless the listener is very understanding and elastic in his ideology,and extremely "at home" with ur line of thought, a revelation of a secret is always a gamble.
Comments welcome. .
nice one "same difference" !
all of us have secrets... they needn't be something we are ashamed off..they might simply be things we don't like mentioning in front of others...
keeping secrets from people might also be a lack of trust on others or even self confidence...
Nice one... keep blogging :)
Duh...that wud b too ideal a world...if everyone knows everything...then whats the fun?? its almost like saying all the humans should b born congruent :D....so u c all the fun that life offers us vanishes....:D ;).....An excellent question put forth though"Is the act of not making a reference to something on your own a secret or the act of deliberately hiding something…?"....so whats the answer anyways :)
[fundamentally philosophical]
keeping secrets might sound like fun.. but when they come out in the open, it might not really be all that enjoyable.. trust always plays a crucial role, but wat really matters is how one defines "secrets"...
[anonymous]
once again, very thoughtful comments...
agreed u cant breach someone's trust by letting out their ssecrets.. but what if you are convinced that what is being kept a secret shouldn't be one for justifiable reasons..?
as for personal secrets.. trust, understanding and comfort levels matter.. but once again, how something is defined as a secret matters... i might not say something on my own, but might when asked about it.. does that mean m keeping a secret ?
[archenemy]
the answer to the question depends on who is answering it...
Like in the case when ur secrets are UR OWN. . and were nurtured over time, you can't be sure whether the second person has given it [b]ALL[/b] the thought that u might have .
In a similar way, if U r party to someone's secret that u think shouldn't remain so any bit longer, , , well, , , the important point here is that it's YOU who's convinced. Not the original person. So, there's always a chance that u r missing out on one (or possibly,many other) point of view(s) - due to which the thing has been a secret for so long.
In such a case, divulging the secret might and WOULD be disastrous for every one in the equation.
NB :: If the other person has had a secret , he/she would definitely have a completely justifiable reason for the same. . and mind u. . many-a-times, it's the REASON that's the REAL SECRET.
In such cases, it's always much much better to confide ur p-o-v in the person who has considered u to be worthy enough to share. . First convince him/her and then go ahead with ur plan or whatever.
What say you ??
ofcourse if someone has confided in u, the trust cant be broken... sure will try to put my point of view across.. but the final decision has to be taken by whoever's secret is under consideration...
"many-a-times, it's the REASON that's the REAL SECRET."
i think this holds true most of the times...
as far as my own secrets are concerned... i dont really have many, and most people know just about everything.. but then...
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- Uncomplicated.
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