can you really become detached from someone whom you were very close at some point in the past and are still in touch with..?
there are 3 people i was very close to some years ago... but then something happened leading to a one sided fight and a one sided hurt... through the years, the contact has been maintained, mainly indirectly and occassionaly personaly... small things have been happening all along to firm up my detachment...
but the strange thing is... i think or feel nothing towards them when i am not in touch or in minimal contact... but when due to uncontrolable situations, i end up with them, things are very formal in the beginning... but gradually as time progresses, some sort of old feelings start taking over.. and when its time for them to move away once again, i feel bad... and once they are gone, the detached feeling returns home !
so basically alot of confusing drama that happens once in a while...! wish i could decide and stick to it once and for all...
posted by same difference @ 9:28 PM
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very true..
though such instances make u sad, coz once upon a time.u were great frnds..n now some personal thread is missing..
its just that both parties shd realise this..if one of them doesnt...then it means ..the realtionship is not that close to the person, as it is to u..
what do u think is the ryt thing to do..??
play the formality game?? or try the umpteenth time "one more call" to the person ...?
yeah does make me sad at times... i dont know if this feeling is mutual, but i have my doubts about it...
but the thing is.. feelings and emotions aren't always rational.. so just knowing wats the right thing to do doesnt gaurantee that it can be done as well...
if only it worked that ways !!
maybe its easier said than done.. but isn't it worth it to clarify whatever happened..
especially if it still seems to affect u n ur friend after so long..
agreed!! with anonymous...if u consider someone ur friend...and think something is not rite...go ahead and let ur friend know tht...distances can be cos of factors not in ones control....
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